The space between

Conflict resolution blog + podcast

The “space between” is the figurative terrain between them and us, between where we are and where we want to be, and between who we are and who we want to be when we’re in a difficult conversation.

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Introducing QueryCards

Upstream conflict resolution

Choosing the right conflict resolution tools

How to disagree better

COMMUNICATION

Behind every criticism is a wish

Break down listening barriers with these 4 questions

Five uncomplicated ways couples can turn arguments into discussions

How to influence the way people act during conflict

SELF-MASTERY

Three alternatives to rumination after an argument

An uncomplicated way to reduce the pitfalls of emotional memories during conflict resolution

How to stop ruminating at night (other times too)

A way to turn anger into curiosity

More on self-mastery during conflict →

MENTAL MODELS

Is a distancing spiral quietly damaging your important relationship?

How to be truly helpful when someone is upset

On the importance of knowing what really matters

3 reasons they won’t change their behavior–and what to do about it

More on conflict resolution mental models →

GOOD PROCESS

When opinions contrast sharply, practice scales

5 ways to deal proactively with conflict while working from home during the coronavirus outbreak

Start with a small yes

Slow down and be the Bedouin

More on good problem-solving process →

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