Try counterfactual thinking instead.
Mental models in problem solving
We all use mental models to make sense of our world and experiences. Mental models are the beliefs, frameworks, mental images, and generalizations we use to understand and explain what's happening. The way we think about people and problems has an important impact on how effectively we solve problems, resolve conflict, and make good decisions.
Real is a rabbit in a bramble patch.
Five ways to stop “less-than”-ing during conflict and conflict resolution.
Avoidance isn’t always a bad idea, but when it feeds a distancing spiral it sure is.
Dismissive positivity and buried empathy begone.
And how to avoid potholes, too