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Recognize mental models

Reveal the “invisible architecture” of your important conversations.

Recognizing mental models

Making the impossible possible

It’s wild how well these kinds of questions work.

Recognizing mental models

Conflict resolution is like driving at night in the fog

You only need to see two or three feet in front of you.

Recognizing mental models

An alternative to perspective-taking when you want to reduce animosity

Try counterfactual thinking instead.

Recognizing mental models

What is the real issue?

Real is a rabbit in a bramble patch.

Recognizing mental models

How to be truly helpful when someone is upset

Dismissive positivity and buried empathy begone.

Recognizing mental models

On the importance of knowing what really matters

And how to avoid potholes, too

Recognizing mental models

3 reasons they won’t change their behavior–and what to do about it

Changing our minds is exhausting.

Recognizing mental models

Upstream conflict resolution

Get ahead of acute or chronic conflict.

Recognizing mental models

Spark a shift in perspective with this question

A good one for your favorite questions list.

Recognizing mental models

Every conflict contains a bid to be seen

I matter.

Recognizing mental models

Avoid this common blunder when confronting difficult behavior

Welcome to Do-Land.

Recognizing mental models

Blame vs contribution (and how to make the shift adroitly)

Intention matters.

Recognizing mental models

A lesson in compassion and understanding from a most annoying woman

Thank you, Universe.

Recognizing mental models

Flip the problem to illuminate hidden solutions

Prevent your natural negativity bias from hijacking your smarts.

Recognizing mental models

Doubt your conflict story

It’ll steer you wrong.

Recognizing mental models

A visualization for letting go of things you can’t change

Find a quiet spot for two minutes.

Recognizing mental models

This common (but faulty) reasoning leads to bad decisions

Don’t fall for the sunk cost fallacy.

Recognizing mental models

The Picasso trick for better problem solving

Love is blind.

Recognizing mental models

A good way to overcome resistance

Stop trying to persuade them out of their resistance.

Recognizing mental models

A surprisingly effective way to handle behavior problems

What would Bart Millar do?

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