Tammy Lenski

7 uncomplicated ways to disagree better over polarizing issues

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BY TAMMY LENSKI

It’s tough to talk to colleagues, friends and family about polarizing issues. But there are a few things you can do to substantially improve the quality of the conversation.

It’s tough to talk to colleagues, friends and family about polarizing issues. But there are a few things you can do to substantially improve the quality of the conversation, and they don’t require a ton of practice to master. Try these.

I created this set of tips for a project and thought I’d share it here. Swipe to visit the tips and click on an image to visit the resource for that tip.

  • Discussing polarized topics with family and friends who don't share your views, by Tammy Lenski
  • Stop arguing the facts. Facts aren't very persuasive because strong opinions in divisive subjects aren't ruled solely by reason.
  • Really. Stop arguing the facts. Over-relying on facts can actually cause someone to double-down on their position.
  • Let go of changing their mind. People don't change their minds without first being understood. Start there.
  • Listen. Everybody says they listen, but listening is not waiting to talk. Try 75% listening, 25% speaking.
  • Get into their movie. This trick of the mind helps you suspend your disbelief so you can listen more fully.
  • Instead of discussing what should be done, discuss what could be done. It helps spark open-mindedness.

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