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The Conflict Pivot

The Conflict Pivot: Turning Conflict into Peace of Mind

Three simple practices to dissolve conflict at work and home

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If you’ve been told not to take it personally, you have only half the story.

Before you can take it less personally, you have to take it more personally. The key to your peace of mind is knowing why certain conflicts get their hooks into you, and what you can do to liberate yourself.

This is a book about finding that key in order to resolve nagging conflict and prevent inconsequential conflict from cluttering your life.

In The Conflict Pivot, veteran mediator, coach, and conflict resolution teacher Dr. Tammy Lenski shares the powerful, simplified approach she developed over the course of a decade to transform conflict into peace of mind. Now you, too, can pivot away from what keeps you stuck in conflict and toward what will free you from ongoing tension at work or home.

“This is one of those life-changing books.”

– Trish Lui

“The world might be better off if a bunch of us all bought an extra copy to give out.”

– Steve Staten

“One of the best and most accessible books I’ve read in my years as a conflict resolution professional.”

– Lorraine Segal

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Read about conflict pivots

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using the pivots at work
using the pivots at home
using pivots with your team
using the pivots in mediation

Free downloads

conflict pivot worksheet
ficha de trabajo en Español
Feuille de Travail sur les Pivots du Conflit
1-page framework
book club guide

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