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Examining mental models

Wired for compassion

We’re wired for compassion — our default setting is to help. But sometimes we turn off that part of ourselves.

If we can turn it off, we can turn it back on, too. All it may take is the simple act of noticing.

So says Daniel Goleman, psychologist and award-winning author of Emotional Intelligence and Social Intelligence in this 13-minute TedTalks video, Why Aren’t We All Good Samaritans, embedded below.

After listening to Goleman’s story about the urban trance and the unconscious man on the subway, I’m left wondering: Is there a relationship at home or work in which you’ve fashioned your own personal version of an urban trance?

What would it take to snap yourself out of it, the way Goleman did on the subway?

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