How do you tell someone their comments sound racist? Or that they’re joke seems sexist? Or any other -ist?
This video, from Jay Smooth, host of New York’s longest running hip-hop radio show (WBAI’s Underground Railroad), does a perfect job of describing a really effective approach. He nails it:
In mediator-speak, it’s called separating intention from impact. We don’t know their intention…but we do know the impact on us and others.