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Don't avoid small fights

Spark a shift in perspective with this question

Ask this simple question to help regulate emotions

Sometimes it's not a conversation that changes their mind

How to confront someone without seeming confrontational

Three essential components of highly effective listening

Before you start solving a problem, be sure you do this

An upside to recurring conflict: Relational stress wood

The surprising way to ask better questions

The triviality trap

A quote from Tammy's interview

Be a better listener with this one crucial habit

An uncomplicated mindfulness technique for managing the urge to lash out

Diagram of a johari window

Many years ago, I talked about the difference between "can" and "how can." They seem so similar, but they’re vastly different. When you ask yourself how do you do something, you’re bypassing your ego in some sense. You’re just out there examining, fiddling with things trying to find the solution. If you ask yourself can you do it, then all you can appeal to is the past. - Ellen Anger

What happens *after* conflict resolution?

Ghost rules

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