Rumination, or dwelling on anger or hurt after a conflict, isn’t a helpful habit. To stop ruminating at night or any other time you find yourself dwelling on your distress, here’s a thought exercise to help you stop the endless and potentially harmful loop.
Cultivating emotional agility
Good listening skills and habits, good questions, and word choice contribute to effective communication. We disagree better when we align our verbal and nonverbal communication with intentions and attitudes that foster connection and build rapport.
De-escalate anger with this straightforward invitation
Anger is a signal, not a defect.
A way to turn anger into curiosity
We’ll call this the George Takei method.
Ask yourself this kind of question when an argument rattles you
Use a centering question to get your balance back.
Fighting in a relationship: The gift of anger
I blew my top and my friend surprised me.
You make me so angry!
Just because they happen to be the one standing in front of you…
4 quick techniques to help you think straight in an argument
Access your good skills when you need them most.
Anxiety about a difficult conversation? Try this.
What a good use of 10 minutes.
A super simple method for regaining self-control
Just a trip down memory lane.
Want someone to calm down? Don’t do this
I’ve written that anger is a messenger that won’t shut up until its message is heard and understood. But if the anger is so big or so loud you can’t hear straight, there are things you can do to help someone calm down. And a few things you shouldn’t do…like these five missteps. I’ve written […]