Avoidance isn’t always a bad idea, but when it feeds a distancing spiral it sure is.
Introducing QueryCards
Self-coaching questions for conflict resolution.
When opinions contrast sharply, practice scales
There’s a whole lotta gray between the black and the white.
Three alternatives to rumination after an argument
Never has a rubber duck been more helpful.
How to be truly helpful when someone is upset
Dismissive positivity and buried empathy begone.
On the importance of knowing what really matters
And how to avoid potholes, too
Behind every criticism is a wish
Or, how to be a criticism translator
Break down listening barriers with these 4 questions
The rockstar duo: Good listening and good questions.
An uncomplicated way to reduce the pitfalls of emotional memories during conflict resolution
Don’t suppress or stifle — shift.
Five uncomplicated ways couples can turn arguments into discussions
Like having a mediator in the living room with you.
3 reasons they won’t change their behavior–and what to do about it
Changing our minds is exhausting.
5 ways to deal proactively with conflict while working from home during the coronavirus outbreak
We belong to each other. – Mother Teresa
Upstream conflict resolution
Get ahead of acute or chronic conflict.
How to stop ruminating at night (other times too)
Go ahead, cozy on up to it.
Spark a shift in perspective with this question
A good one for your favorite questions list.
How to disagree better
Have better disagreements in your personal and professional relationships.
Choosing the right conflict resolution tools
3 questions for choosing the right tool at the right time.
Every conflict contains a bid to be seen
I matter.
How to influence the way people act during conflict
Beliefs can and do create social reality.
A way to turn anger into curiosity
We’ll call this the George Takei method.
Start with a small yes
Use the psychology of agreement to start your conversation right.
Slow down and be the Bedouin
It’s all about frame of reference.
Do the next right thing
The best kind of experiment.
How to politely stop long-winded talkers
“At what point do I get to be the one to talk?”
Avoid this common blunder when confronting difficult behavior
Welcome to Do-Land.
Control emotions better by labeling them
For once, labels are a good thing.
Blame vs contribution (and how to make the shift adroitly)
Intention matters.
A lesson in compassion and understanding from a most annoying woman
Thank you, Universe.
Flip the problem to illuminate hidden solutions
Prevent your natural negativity bias from hijacking your smarts.
4 handy principles for deciding when you can’t agree
Fallback criteria save the day. Again.